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IT'S TIME TO DE-SLIME

COACHES for you:


IT'S TIME TO DE-SLIME!


First a definition:

slim·y /ˈslīmē/

adjective covered by or having the feel or consistency of slime. "the thick, slimy mud"

synonyms: slippery, slithery, greasy, oozy, muddy, mucky, sludgy, miry

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INFORMAL disgustingly immoral, dishonest, or obsequious. "he was a slimy people-pleaser"

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synonyms: obsequious, sycophantic, excessively deferential, subservient, fawning, toadying, ingratiating, unctuous, oily, oleaginous, greasy, reptilian, grovelling, cringing, toadyish, sycophantish, slavish, abject, craven, self-abasing;

**NOTE - my NEW favorite word is going to be "toadying or toadyish"

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Here's a recent example of sliming I received from a coach to review - an e-mail to a prospective client:

Dear xxx!

Hope you are well!

I was thinking about you today and realized some time has passed by since we last spoke!

So, how are you doing?

Have you had a chance to clarify what your next steps are, in regards to our coaching?

I’d be willing to connect over the phone one of these days if that would serve you . . .

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You may be reading the above and be asking, "What's slimy or toadyish about that?"

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Great question!

There's a lot of exclamation points happening, that's the first thing - which falls under the category of more "social self" communication.

The most "toadyish" part is this:

"Have you had a chance to clarify what your next steps are, in regards to our coaching?"

WHY?

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WHY IS THIS TOADYISH???

Because it's about the coach. The coach is "checking in" and "touching base" with the person to see, "have you decided to give me your money?"


There is nothing in this that's in service to the person. There's only the most basic of "how are you's".


E-MAIL IS THE WORST

Email is not for asking a potential client if they have decided to give you their money.

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E-mail is not for asking a potential client to if they have been thinking about coaching.

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E-mail is not for asking a potential client if they are ready for coaching.

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Email is not for asking a potential client if they have realized that coaching with you is the best decision they can ever make.

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WHAT IS E-MAIL FOR?

Good question!

E-mail is for slowed down connecting, engaging, and serving. E-mail is for sharing resources. E-mail is for asking questions that reflect personal interest in the recipient.

E-mail is for being creative, inviting people into conversations with thoughtfulness and caring, without attachment and without any sales-ey toadyness.

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WHERE DOES A COACH LEARN TO DE-SLIME YOU ASK?

From a coach or a school that knows what toadyness and sliming is in all its forms.

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From coaches who were SO 🐸ish and good at subtle and not so subtle sliming they could write a LOT of e-mails about it and even lead a webinar about it . . .

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