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Coaches—What Do You Want?

Updated: Aug 30, 2018


Carolyn Freyer-Jones and Michelle Bauman

This is an excerpt from a weekly report where *Michelle was coaching a coach. This was a 6 month group for coaches that we ran, focused on teaching them the tools and skills for growing their business.


EVERY WEEK these coaches reported to us on their billings, conversations, proposals, and invitations (note - coaches in the CFJ Coaching Success School will also be submitting a monthly report just like these coaches did - because what gets measured gets DONE) . . .


AS A PROFESSIONAL COACH - - - - - - - - - -

BEING COACHED YOURSELF - - - - - - - - - -

IS THE MOST VALUABLE THINGS YOU CAN DO


In this weekly report the coach asked, "How involved do you get in your clients lives? I have a client who wants me to marry him and his girlfriend and assist them with being birth coach - I am curious how you and Carolyn handle this?"


FROM Michelle Abend Bauman:


"When I was first diagnosed with cancer – I was in a lot of fear about my business. I just didn’t know what the year would be like – and how I would make money etc. (it turned out I didn’t need to worry – but that’s a different story). I wrote to Steve Chandler about it – and (given that we’ve worked together a long time and we have a personal relationship) he wrote me a really compassionate email about how he would be there for me and how I wouldn’t lose ground financially. And it helped for about a week.


Then I sent another similar email . . . thinking I’d get the same response (after all I loved his reassurance) – and instead I got a big apology for the first email, for letting his personal feelings towards me color his response – and instead of more comfort – he told me that this was a real opportunity to look at my beliefs that would have money be the source of my security. It was painful yet powerful – it was clear he was not going to let me play victim – even while dealing with illness. Not easy – but powerful.


Steve has told me lots of time – he’s willing to risk our relationship – risk me not like him – in service to my growth.


So the question is . . . as you get more involved in their lives – will you still be able to show up as the coach? Only you can answer this question.


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It's me, Carolyn again.


WHAT DO YOU WANT?


AS A PROFESSIONAL COACH ARE YOU HOLDING NOTHING BACK?


THINK about what Steve did and said to Michelle. Even when his beloved client was in the midst of a serious illness he did not hesitate to SHOW HER that she had an opportunity to look at something.

In fact, it was even more important to show her this, given what she was walking through.


HE WAS NOT CONCERNED ABOUT HOW IT WOULD FEEL FOR MICHELLE TO RECEIVE THAT EMAIL.


And in turn, Michelle used this very real story from her own life to serve another coach.


So as Michelle asked - the question FOR YOU is . . are you showing up as the coach with your clients?

Only you can answer this question.


*For those of you who are new to reading my blog, Michelle was my business partner and best friend. She passed away in 2015 from a diagnosis of breast cancer.


**Let me know in the comments if this was a helpful post to you in any way - and - please feel free to share it with other coaches!


***BONUS - One of our first professional photos - pre having our colors done!

— with Michelle Abend Bauman.


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