Coaches WANT to and NEED to grow.
That's what's on my mind as we go offline and into the holidays.
THINKING - long post!
I recently spent time with my coach, in a room, with 4 other dedicated coaches. I spent time looking at my business, what's calling to me, and my personal life, what's calling me there.
I came out of the room different. Clearer, with some actions, and different inside.
The other day I was in a conversation with a new-ish coach, who says he wants to be coached. He says he knows, "It's a good idea." He wants to be making more money in this profession, and he wants to be expanding what he does, who he serves. He's struggling and he's trying to make it work, and it's not there yet.
In another conversation with a not so newish coach, who runs groups and does other kinds of work as well. She wants to expand her work, she has concerns about providing for her family. She has not ever worked with a coach.
And there's another coach, someone who's been coaching on and off for years. He's frustrated and angry that he can't seem to make enough to earn his living solely from coaching. He told me, "I haven't found the right coach."
I'm thinking about my beloved business partner Michelle Abend Bauman, and what she said to a room full of USM grads at an evening we facilitated on the University of Santa Monica's Soul-Centered Professional Coaching Program.
We were talking about this profession, and how there's a low bar to entry.
BECAUSE WHAT DO WE REALLY NEED?
A phone, a computer - not much else.
HOW DO WE BECOME GREAT?
"I'm a product of coaching. There's my USM education, which is important, and my foundation, and there's my coach, Steve Chandler, who helps me in all areas of my life.
"We don't need much to get into this profession. A phone, a computer . . .that's not really the point though - it's how do we become great?
Not great in the ego sense - great in the mastery sense. What does it mean to become truly great at something - how does that happen?
I have my coach, I put myself in something every year where I'm learning and growing. I'm growing so that I have more to give to my clients and to my business."
ALL WE HAVE TO GIVE to OTHERS IS OUR CONSCIOUSNESS
That's all we have.
ALL WE HAVE TO GIVE to OUR BUSINESS IS OUR CONSCIOUSNESS
NO COACH = LESS EFFECTIVE NO COACH = LESS GROWTH NO COACH = LESS INCOME
Newer coaches, in the first five years of their work in this profession, need coaching. Real coaching on their business and themselves.
My own pov is coaches need coaching throughout the course of their careers - in service to their own growth and the growth of their clients. That's just me - breaks are great, and I'm committed to ongoing learning and growth.
These coaches are fantastic people - and they are helping people.
Yet there's a real "dilemma" they are in.
THEY HAVEN'T CHOSEN IN YET
Not really. Not fully. Not to themselves, to their business, or this profession.
I love this profession - I love that it's not regulated, that people are required to choose in or not to how they are going to grow themselves and their businesses.
Because it separates out those who are in this for the duration. Since there's a very low bar to entry, it welcomes all.
Those who stay, and those who put in the work of showing up, of being taught, of being served so that they can serve in greater ways, that's where mastery is.
THERE'S NO WAY TO KNOW
Until you are in the room.
Until you have made the investment.
There's no way to know what it's like to share your own underbelly.
There's no way to know what can occur when you let someone see your own perceived messiness.
Until you are in your own container of learning and expansion, there's no way to know what is available.
WHAT YOU ARE ASKING OTHERS TO DO MATTERS
There's no way to know what you are asking others to do if you have not done it yourself.
We can only assist others to the degree we have assisted ourselves.
There's no way to really understand:
When you are offering coaching to others and you are not making the same (or greater) investment in your own coaching that it matters.
UNTIL YOU ARE ON THE OTHER SIDE
I hope to see you beloved coach, on the other side.
On the other side of growth, of expansion, of a stronger business mindset and an even more joyful life.
I hope YOU become a product of coaching, NOT just because the best coaches I know are products of coaching.
Because your whole life will be better.
You will serve more effectively.
You will be a stronger, more financially successful business.
Your days will be more joyful.
You will be expanding.
YOU WILL KNOW
Happy holidays, beautiful coaches - here's to 2019 and the other side!